The Importance of Men’s Emotional Clearing With Father
Since doing this men’s work for my self as well as with other men, I’ve found that when men, including my self, don’t clear our sentiments and anger issues with our father’s, all of that, that is not connected, owned, and expressed to clear that dynamic, gets projected on to someone else. This limited projection is normally directed to a male authority figure in the man’s life.
In my attempt to clear this in me, I suggest to men reading this blog and or doing this work with this men’s teaching, is to see what’s between you and your father that needs to be cleared and healed. You may also want to see what you may be projecting on to other men that hold a place of authority in your life such as your boss, clients, older friends, teachers, and or therapist, to take that back to you, by owning, and asking for forgiveness for any of your misinterpretation. Your judgment, critic, may be toward father, and now you, that may be carrying the same limited pattern’s as father.
Remember men; there is nothing outside of you, just your projections of what’s not healed in you. So if your are reacting in a limited way to a male figure in your life, that may be holding authority, check your unhealed dynamic with you and your father. You may find the discrepancy is not with the man of authority and you, but all along with your father.
What has not been said between your father and you that may need to be said for your healing? Remember men, we can say anything that feels and needs to be said, with kindness, compassion, and love. If you don’t have these three qualities, I would suggest for you not to say anything, but keep exploring, connecting, and owning your wounds with your father…. luis
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so luis, if a man has anger toward his father … he should not express it.. he should keep quiet until he finds connection wounds and such.. i feel even though i am not now there ,i should not express the pain..not anger.. that his unconscious being inflicted on me ? i am sure that in my unconscious state of being a man that i have inflicted unneeded wanted darkness that emanated from my own unconsciousness.
Thank you Rafa for your comment about expressing one’s emotions with one’s father. We first have to appreciate that your feelings and emotions, irrelevant to what they may be, limited or unlimited, are yours to own, and express, not from a victim point of view, but from one that’s has every right to connect, and express that pain or joy.
As you express your pain, the feeling of hurt that most likely come from a past wound that has not been healed, the limited energy will diminish with time, especially when you are holding forgiveness, compassion, and love in your expression. In the Men’s Path of Empowerment Workshop’s, we find different way’s to express our feelings of anger and rage from a place of truth, our truth that can be ruthless and very impact full when it comes from the unlimited rather than the limited.
The unconscious energy that you may think is being inflicted on you is only because you carry the same energy, most likely from a wound that you have not healed. As you heal that wound that causes that pain and feeling that you may think is being inflecting on you, your reaction toward him will change, and consequently your feelings about him, which may open a door for meaningful communication between each other, weather he’s in body or not, the healing may need to take place in you.
One has every right to express one’s pain from a place of the unlimited. Remember it’s your pain, without being the victim and with out expressing the anger and rage that one may have, that came from un-healed wounds in you. What you may carry in your unconsciousness will be passed energetically to others only if they hold the same kind of energetic wound in them.
How’s fault is this it, that keeps fathers and sons apart, the father’s that may have been doing his best, or not, in passing his lessons to his son, or the son that has not healed his wound from and with father, that he may be projecting back on to him self, or, on to other men?
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