Comments on: Stalking the Pre Emasculated Man http://empoweringmen.com/stalking-the-pre-emasculated-man/ Wed, 25 Jan 2012 04:32:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: admin http://empoweringmen.com/stalking-the-pre-emasculated-man/#comment-32 admin Tue, 25 Aug 2009 18:49:58 +0000 http://www.empoweringmen.com/?p=23#comment-32 Rafa, thank you for your comments about Stalking the Pre Emasculated Man, the metaphor of loosing your “key” in your dream is terrific, it shows us how so many men give their power over to someone else, and then become victimized by the act and by them. I am aware that women also do that, and because we are talking about men, we will stay on that track, or at least for now. Yes Rafa, when we men are in relationship with women, and we leave our key unattended, they, as human nature dictates, will pick it up, and may even use it to benefit them selves and the family. In addition, when we men take back our key, our power, our self-love, over anyone else, we become empowered, and may cause an estrangement with others. You see it’s not the woman’s fault that men leave their power for them to pick and use for them selves, but our duty to retain our power, and or key. We do this by creating “healthy boundaries” that basically say, I love my self more than I love anyone else to include my partner. Of course we do this with as much kindness, compassion and love that we can have as we break away from our old limited patterns. Now I understand that this last statement may go against many due to their cultural transmission and or religious training. At the same time, we need to face a truth, that if we have no self love, self compassion, power, or one’s key, we will not be able to care and or love anyone else from a non codependent relationship, and may let our selves fall into a “needy” codependent relationship. We men need to accept and own our power before we can help anyone else with it. We cannot just pass our power, love to someone else in hopes of them giving us back some of what we have passed on to them initially. When we receive money, food, gifts, as well as love, we have to accept it for our selves first, before we can give it to anyone else. Like wise, when we retain our self-love, respect, and power, or in Rafa’s case his key, we enrich our selves and consequently give more of the same to others. The concept of being “dominated unwittingly” by the woman, can also be seen as being dominated by your own emotional body, what I call the feminine energy that lives in the duality of each human. This may happen when men don’t connect, own, and express their feelings and emotions, they in fact become controlled, “highjacked,” and dominated by their own emotional body, the feminine in you, which in time will be like giving your key away. Immaterial to what happened to the man that almost lost his key, his power and place in an equal relationship, what men need to ask them selves, is how closely connected are you men to your own feelings and emotions, and are you able to express the same to your beloved and others. Once again Rafa, and men reading and contributing comments to this men’s blog, thank you for making this happen. Rafa, thank you for your comments about Stalking the Pre Emasculated Man, the metaphor of loosing your “key” in your dream is terrific, it shows us how so many men give their power over to someone else, and then become victimized by the act and by them. I am aware that women also do that, and because we are talking about men, we will stay on that track, or at least for now.

Yes Rafa, when we men are in relationship with women, and we leave our key unattended, they, as human nature dictates, will pick it up, and may even use it to benefit them selves and the family. In addition, when we men take back our key, our power, our self-love, over anyone else, we become empowered, and may cause an estrangement with others. You see it’s not the woman’s fault that men leave their power for them to pick and use for them selves, but our duty to retain our power, and or key. We do this by creating “healthy boundaries” that basically say, I love my self more than I love anyone else to include my partner. Of course we do this with as much kindness, compassion and love that we can have as we break away from our old limited patterns.

Now I understand that this last statement may go against many due to their cultural transmission and or religious training. At the same time, we need to face a truth, that if we have no self love, self compassion, power, or one’s key, we will not be able to care and or love anyone else from a non codependent relationship, and may let our selves fall into a “needy” codependent relationship.

We men need to accept and own our power before we can help anyone else with it. We cannot just pass our power, love to someone else in hopes of them giving us back some of what we have passed on to them initially. When we receive money, food, gifts, as well as love, we have to accept it for our selves first, before we can give it to anyone else. Like wise, when we retain our self-love, respect, and power, or in Rafa’s case his key, we enrich our selves and consequently give more of the same to others.

The concept of being “dominated unwittingly” by the woman, can also be seen as being dominated by your own emotional body, what I call the feminine energy that lives in the duality of each human. This may happen when men don’t connect, own, and express their feelings and emotions, they in fact become controlled, “highjacked,” and dominated by their own emotional body, the feminine in you, which in time will be like giving your key away.

Immaterial to what happened to the man that almost lost his key, his power and place in an equal relationship, what men need to ask them selves, is how closely connected are you men to your own feelings and emotions, and are you able to express the same to your beloved and others.

Once again Rafa, and men reading and contributing comments to this men’s blog, thank you for making this happen.

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