I suggest that we remember the Stalking process and as you mention, being aware of those limited traits that can, in time become addictive, by becoming aware of the feeling that it creates in you, is the first step. Then once we connect with that feeling, that wants to initiate the limited pattern into action, due to the lack of one’s attention, one can follow the next step of consciously refraining from that limited pattern. Now, all one has to remember is “who” he really is. Not the “fear” that is brought about the wound(s) that have not been healed, that may be showing them self by the initiation of anxiety, irritation and eventually anger.

We have to remember that once you refrain, it may stop the limited pattern, which means that we still have to continue with our awareness of that wound, that’s causing all of this in us. The challenge for men is to heal that wound that is what is erupting in us, and causing all the limitation.

Yes, Jason, some time all we need to do is check the awareness about taking our selves to seriously, and refraining from the limited action, but also we may want to continue with the process of “full disclosure” with-in our selves.

Some times, we may need a teacher, therapist, and mentor to help us see that in us. Let’s face it, we are the worst to see that limited in us, and consequently may need someone other than our own judge telling us that we need to be right and in control to feel safe. From my experience, men need to delve deep with-in, to find those unattended wounds that are just ready to erupt at a moments notice. That’s why, I have found it important for men to meet with other men, in finding way’s to go deep in each to find and heal the wound before it irrupts in us, hurting our selves as well as our families around us.