Men becoming Self Empowered
As long as men keep giving them selves over to the woman outside of them, over their own feelings of their own emotional essence, I would regretfully say that many men are abandoning them selves and living life for others.
When men don’t connect with their own feelings and emotions, and rely on women to guide them emotionally, and partake in living life from their minds in “doing” and not “feeling,“ they are losing a significant part of their structure, their emotional body, their feminine that in fact, is part of each man. Could this be a time for self-development for men, as they become responsible for their feelings and emotions as they do for their mental activity?
How does “fear” keep men from owning their total human being ness as men of Hearts and Minds?
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Fear isolates one from one’s own truth, that can be acquired by being connected equally to mind and emotions, thus creating a deeper emotional awareness of mind and heart to live life from our dual essence of the physical and ethereal states. As long as we continue living from the mind, which is where the fear is held, we will continue to live with more fear and defense to all that exists around of us.
The question is how can we men create this dual way of living life from the mind and heart, when we live in such a mental and material way?
Personally I’ve found that the best way I deal with fear is by connecting with it as fully as possible. Continually pulling my attention back to it remaining as present as possible, accepting it now and owning it as a wound within the little ‘me’ irrespective of the outside circumstances I remind myself the fear is within my mind.
I find that at first the feeling intensifies but then sometimes comes an insight of understanding and it lessens other times it just passes over to the Love that lies beneath the illusion.
Fear is the biggest deterrent to human freedom. In relationship to men’s duality of mind and heart, I have found that when men don’t complete emotional issues with their mother’s, for what ever reason, they will project what’s incomplete with mothers to their woman partners. Mostly men project this incompleteness to their own feminine, their emotional mind, their feelings and emotions and stay living life out of their minds, with fears, limitation and mostly as victims. Most men are victimized by their own feminine, their own feeling and emotions, and consequently as well as women in their lives. The boy never becomes the man that can live out of their mind to connect with their emotional mind in all they “do” and “be” in life.
When men don’t connect, own, and express their own feelings and emotions and live out of their minds in thinking, they isolate then selves from their own emotional body. When this happens, men abandon their own emotional guidance of what they feel, and follow their minds in what they think, becoming rigid, and contracted.
When men are not connected to the empowerment of both mind and heart, men diminish in scope and generality they lose their power, their total vital energy. When this guidance for men that is in each one, is not accessed, they will most likely replace their feeling body with the desires of the women in the man’s life, abandoning them selves over the woman’s wanting and needing for him.
As far as Dave’s and Jason’s comment on how men can live life from the mind and heart, when we live in such a mental and material world… That’s one of men’s biggest challenge for men today, to also connect and to live more from the “right side of the brain,” the feeling and the emotional part, to create an equality in using the mental and emotional minds when making decision and living life in general.
My first suggestion for this task is to FOCUS, and stays focused on that task, and then find your own disparity between your “thinking” and “feeling” process. Is there a balance between your thinking and feeling process? Are you as connected to your feelings as you are to your thinking? From my understanding, we are all so different with diverse make up’s and histories, so much so that we each have to find our own distinction between our mind and heart, the doing and being. If it’s difficult for your to determine your balance between these two human and distinct qualities, ask your partner, she will most likely know, well, that’s if she’s connected to her own emotional body, I’m finding out that many woman, are not either.
This will take time, the mind, your mind is use to leading the way, it has to understand that your incorporating another part of you that also has a big part in your over all guidance, decision making and general well being. Start by being impeccable with your words, start using words that state more about your feeling body than your thinking mind. As far as other way’s to connect to your feelings and emotional side, stay connected to this men’s blog, and find new way’s to do just that. Most of all… be patient, this may take time, as you progress, you will be more sensitive and perceptive to your self, your partner, your family, your work colleagues and eventually your community. Keep up the good work men and women reading this blog.
I have to admit, that when I first posted this brief about men giving over their power to women in their lives by not connecting to their own emotional mind, we had no immediate response. At first, I felt dissolution, sad, and with angst that men reading this could not understand nor want to reply to this message… by men obviously living more in their minds than their feelings and emotions. As I looked further with-in, I found a part of me that felt miserable that it had taken me so long in accessing and expressing my emotional body, which I’m presently attempting to do, and consequently projecting it on to you men. Thank you men and women reading this for supporting your selves as you contribute to this blog for men and women that love men… luis
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