Creating Mental and Emotional Equilibrium
Hello Don Luis,
One of the biggest obstacles I feel I need to face is in letting go control and learning to listen and follow my heart. I had great mirrors for this through my parents who I became submissive to and later rebellious to all other authority outside. I am aware of the anger and sadness this has brought up as I have reacted and operated from this in me and suppressed my heart through fear and attempted to control life via the mind, which I know is futile.
I’m well aware that this affects all aspects in my life, most importantly, my self expression through my professional work. A fear of losing control and belief in scarcity has effected my decisions. I have learned to suppress the messages of my heart and therefore have listened to the rational of my mind as my guide. I have banged my head on the wall of life striving to find positive expression through my income earning position but have not found it, why, because the under lying motivator has always been Financial and not expression. I have been unable to allow my heart guide me, unable to let go of mind control.
The best I can; and I continue to find forgiveness for my parents and for myself in believing and taking on this programming. I am trying to learn to really trust in that feminine aspect in me. How best can this be done? How do I overcome the fear of letting go control so as to allow Spirit express and unfold through me and my life situation? I would like to hear the messages of other men who are similarly becoming aware of this limited pattern and of those who have faced this and are now listening and following their hearts which ultimately allows Love and happiness to naturally flow.
With Love and respect, jd
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for me the journey into the wisdom of the feminine started with a breakdown huge.. i thought this is it? i was married raising a family successful professional and i felt so hollow so empty lost.. and at that point with tremendous inner work the magic began. for me to get in touch with my inner beings/gods i started journaling. writing to myself about what ever concerned me and then waiting for answers to come .. i fast discovered that moving inward on a journey to the ancient inner core of myself would provide the answers and guidance. i discovered inner beings, sacred beings that i was unaware of that were so diverse . for me that was the beginning of a new life a life that was ME. i then had to develop a relationship with those shut off parts. they quickly told me the most fascinating story .. that they were the ones who were trying to get my attention for years. they needed and demanded life.. the first group of guides were a group of ladies .. wonderful ladies all white and beautiful and kind and oh so generous. they told me that if i would come to them that they would always guide me correctly.. they were my greatest treasure and soon came other guides/gods.. basically what they told me was that they needed life i had bottled them all up and shut them in a dungeon and thrown away the key.. they told me that i needed an adventure… and that if i consulted them and obeyed them that i would be given a new life a new beautiful life.. and oh my god what an adventure we went on. and my life began to become a grand adventure that was lived for the most part inwardly. i trusted few to share what i had undertaken. my life had become brittle and dry without feeling. you mentioned about waking up to your heart feelings .. well it is all there , they are waiting for you.. they will come the instant you call for them. my life changed dramatically as yours will.. most of family did not want me to go on a adventure did not want me to change . but i knew deep that if i did not follow my new found guides that i would die by growing old slowly and languish during my remaining days.. the call , and that is what has happened to you .. you have been called… when i realized this i being a warrior of sorts did not turn back.. i did not care what the costs were.. and they were many… but my guides led me on and i found my heart expanding and expanding.. i feel that you will need a guide to help you and don luis is there , what a gift to us all.. hope this helps in some way.. and please remember it is only the very best man who suffers in this way… the intelligent man, the heroic man.. lesser men blame or find another set of windmills to vanquish anything but seeing that he simply can not go farther he can only go thru and find a new level of consciousness. i salute you jd !
rafa
Thank you Rafa for your insightful applied advice, that was honed by your experience, knowing we all have our way of finding the beauty of the feminine in each man. This may also be applied to women living life out of their mind and or masculine energy, other than both, mind and heart, equally.
My sense is that we men can help each other by sharing our own experience, as to how we learned to appreciate our own beauty of our feminine, as when you my friend Rafa, many years ago suggested I look into my heart more than my mind. Thank you dear friend for you wisdom, input, and love, then and now… luis
damn luis you brought me to tears! thank you …
rafa
Thank you Rafa for sharing your experience. Putting aside mind identified personal importance and asking for help with humility is what I am doing as best as I can and its opening up.
I realize the only way forward is through the contracted it must be acknowledged and expressed if not we hit the wall and have a ‘mental/emotional breakdown’ which is what has happened for me, I had to hit bottom to start to find a way up, I’m conscious I do not want to rebuild an ego centric mind set but dig deeper and find that inner guidance from spirit, from my true center. Some of this is only coming to my conscious awareness of late however change is happening I’m glad to say each day I’m receiving little signals and slowly making the connection deeper.
Thanks again to you and to Don Luis with respect jd
well the breakdown was a gift jd. ! you were forced to look inward. some of you comments are so wise…”i’m receiving little signals every day.. they will become oh so stronger as the are listened to and obeyed. “ultimately allows love and happiness to naturally flow” jd man you know so much! it now is time to go to work.. the call to adventure may soon come… surrender to the divine where anything can happen and nothing is explained . for me, my guides once i got in touch with them told me that they were dying inside of me.. they were languishing .. they told me they needed life and that if i gave them life they would give me a wonderful life but first they needed to LIVE… so it all started.. they opened doors for me where no doors existed i became a stone rolling on its own and paths were opened before i even got there. jd this is rich rich time for you.
ps there are many pitfalls and dangers and you might very well need a guide like don luis… this journey you are already well into it is not easy and few are called.
rafa
Thank you Rafa and the essence you are allowing express through you.
I am realizing and experiencing that self acceptance for me is where it is beginning. I have had to stop my mind telling me the sad story, the poor me story of self rejection, denial of my truth. I’m walking early in the morning in nature and the heavy emotion is being released as I am forgiving the past and in particular my family for not been what I wanted them to be, and in forgiving myself for the very same messages of rejection.
For days this has just been a veil of tears as if it would never pass but this morning I was connecting with the beauty nature was showing me, my heart feels lighter there is a great sense of gratitude and humility growing within. I am growing in trust in listening to my heart’s unsaid messages.
You know allowing ourselves to be as we are, our individual unique expressions of Life seems like such a simple statement? It sounds so natural and yet we carry our conditioning and believe that we are not good enough in our simple divinity what lies!
sounds as if you have surrendered to the divine , where anything can happen and nothing is explained jd. your story has helped all of us open more to the journey which for the most part is inner. thank you thank you ….. rafa
Men, thank you so much for the wonderful lesson passed on to us reading this blog, know that I appreciate you both, as men strong in heart, and mind. I send you much love and respect… luis
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