Posts from — August 2010
Dilemma: Men, have you noticed how some women, when in relation with a men, want to change, and or modify the man into something they want for the man to be for them?
In addition, have you noticed how a some woman’s motherly instincts, takes the woman from supporting her son, to her male partner, in guiding the “boy becoming man” in being a man for her, other than for him self?
Have you seen control issues coming from the woman’s fear, in teaching the “boy becoming man” how to live in her fear and control?
Or maybe you have seen how the “boy becoming man” is not able to be a man for him self, and succumbs to the woman’s guidance before looking within to find out what he wants in life?
Situation: When the “boy becoming man” has not connected with his own power, he will let the woman, now maybe more like mother, control him into being something for her, that may not be his own choosing.
Question: Would this be an issue for the woman wanting something different for her man partner, or an issue for the “boy becoming man”, that let’s this happen to him in the relationship?
Conclusion: “Either way, how would one resolve this with partner?
August 23, 2010 No Comments
Many have said, especially women about men, that men are still living in the dark ages, and that all they really want from life is food, sex, and sleep, not necessarily always in that order. Many men have also said about women, that they spend more time being in drama about what they think they feel, instead of just expressing their feeling’s and emotions.
By now, especially if you’re reading this men’s blog, you know, that there are many men that have, or are in the process of evolving from that basic evolutionary “dark period.” With the individual growth of each man, in becoming responsible for their emotions in relationship with them selves, with women, and humanity, from my perspective, is becoming more sustainable for each one.
What I’m hearing from men today, is something new, they want to hear from women important in their lives, how they are feeling about something, instead of the drama of it all. It seems that humanity is becoming more responsible for them selves, especially when dealing and becoming emotionally accountable. This could in fact, resonates more with truth, honesty, and compassion as responsible human beings.
Here’s, a few examples of what mature responsible men would like to hear from women in their lives:
Not: “You make me so happy, I don’t know what I would do with out you. I can’t live with out you.”
To: “I make my self happy while being relational with you. I know that I truly don’t need you, but want you in my life. I have great respect for you and at the same time, some times I disagree with you on some points, knowing that we both learn from each other, and help each other grow as individuals and as a couple that’s in relationship.
Not: “I need you to be with me so I can feel good about me. You’re my reason for living.”
To: “I’ve chosen you, not because I’m needy, but because I want you in my life. I’m committed to our relationship, and at the same time, I have a life of my own. I want to take care of my self, as best I can moment to moment, so that I can be a better partner for our relationship.”
Understanding that the word has the power to create, change, shift, express, we become aware of the importance of the word, action, and reaction, all the way to our thoughts.
What do you think, feel, about the examples above, are you presently hearing the “Not” from your partner, or are you getting more of the “To.”
What other statements could you classify as “Not,” and “To,” that you would like to share with us reading this men’s blog, thanks… luis
August 12, 2010 No Comments