Posts from — January 2010

I’ve been following your blog since you first started and even though I know that you have not covered sexual issues between men and women, I hope you will answer a question I’d like to ask you, and men reading this blog. I’ve been dating an intelligent, smart, beautiful and some what controlling woman for over a year, we have what I perceived a normal sexual life, being intimate two to three times a week, depending on our work schedule, we’re in our early mid, forties, and yet she’s only reached her orgasm a few times with me, through self-stimulation. I’ve tried everything from talking about it, suggesting a vibrator, doing plenty of foreplay, from doing massage’s, to trying to stimulate her from her big toe to the top of her head, with out joy, as in reaching her orgasm, while having sexual intercourse and or me trying to stimulate her. All my relationships in the past have been pleased with the attention I’ve been able to give her, especially helping them reach their orgasm before me, and or reaching this place together. My patience is wearing out, all along, I’ve been feeling bad, and sad, some times resentful as if she was holding something back from me, and at times, it brings feelings of being impotent and helpless in not being able to help her. Any suggestions? Marc